Mama’s our family is going through a shift. Our kids are at a new school that is not working out very well for them, my husband got a new job in a new state and we are moving a few days before Christmas into our new home. So I’m packing and getting us ready to hit the road. This school year has been filled with many challenges, but some of the things my kids have dealt with at school were just hard to wrap my mind around. As Mama’s when our kids are hurt we hurt, it’s just that simple. My 4th grader experienced bullying in an extreme way this year and although I stayed on top of it I didn’t like how it made him feel. My daughter wanted to change the color of her skin and her hair because as a 2nd grader she felt that she could have nice friends that way. I know that times have changed and kids are different, but so are parents and the society we live. My son was told he was a B**** and a F****t by one of his classmates in the 4th grade!!! I told his teacher and she handled it. Another one of his classmates asked him if he wanted to die every time he opened his mouth to speak. When my son would answer him “No” his classmate would say, “Well shut up then”. Seriously? How horrible is that?
I am like a piranha when it comes to my children. Point blank period. I know that kids will be kids, but I feel horrible sending my kids to an environment where they feel less than because of their skin color and the horrible things other kids say to them. My son tells me that most days he wants to cry, but then he thinks of wrestlers and football players and how strong they are and that helps him to keep the tears in. He told me that he also remembered me telling him to ignore hurtful words spoken by others, but ignoring it doesn’t make the pain go away (TEARS!!). When I dropped him off to school that morning I cried in my car all the way back home because I felt awful for leaving him in a place where he is supposed to learn but feels unwelcomed and like an outsider daily. When my daughter was diagnosed with ADHD in the Spring of 2013 I wanted to homeschool her, but she wanted to stay in school so bad. Now she’s asking can she just go to school at home (sigh).
I have been dancing around the idea of homeschooling four children and got scared every time. I figured that I had not gone to school to properly teach my kids all they would need to know, so I would be better off sending them to public school daily and just supplementing them when they come home. I kept feeling the urge to homeschool, but like I said I was afraid that I would really mess my kids up. I prayed and waited all the while knowing what I was supposed to do but fear kept me from doing it (I’ll admit that).
So here we are ready to move to our new home and I am proud to say that the Bouie Family will be homeschooling all of our children year round on a quarter system. I know this will be a rewarding, fun filled and trying time, but we are family and I love my kids past the moon. The kids are excited and they have already decided that they want to learn about zoology, earth space science, meteorology, African American history, Hieroglyphics and they are interested in cursive writing and a second language. I’m pretty geeked as we will set up a classroom per the kids request in our new home. My husband is 100% supportive of this decision. Many of my family members have been worried about their socialization, but fret not the kids will be active in dance, sports, church and maybe even a homeschool co-op!
So Mama’s I decided to listen to my heart because my mind was definitely telling me no. I cannot tell you if homeschooling is right for you as it comes with many sacrifices. I believe the sacrifice is worth it for me to teach my children, love on them and watch them grow and develop. I look forward to this time where our lives will no longer be dictated by a traditional school schedule. I believe the flexibility will be amazing and a welcomed breath of fresh air. Mama’s I’ll keep you posted on our progress and if you homeschool please share any tips or stories you may have!
Don’t wait, Live your best life now!