Happy Hump Day Mama’s! I hope your week has been off to a wonderful start thus far. As for me and my family we are growing, and no I am not pregnant again! I am talking about growing as in becoming more in sync with each other’s needs and respecting each other more. This whole month we have been working on respect as a family. It’s not that we were disrespecting each other as family members, but we each have different needs. Sometimes one or some of us may not understand or agree with the needs of other family members and this can cause a bit of tension. For example my oldest son who is 9 years old needs alone and quite time. He likes to go and be by himself for a few hours to simply be left alone. He has told me that he needs this time away from his siblings. I am an only child and I cannot relate to him on needing time away from his siblings, but because he has communicated this need to me I have obliged. We have set up specific times during the week on Monday, Wednesday and Friday for him to have quiet time. This has proven to calm him and not make his as aggressive in his actions, tone or words towards his siblings and sometimes me.
Some of you may be thinking that I am catering too much to my child but the truth is we all have needs, even children. When these specific needs are being met it makes for a happier individual. I have started doing Yoga, 4-5 times a week for 30 minutes. I need this as it is extremely relaxing for me. I have voiced this to my kids as Mama getting her “inner peace”. The first few times they were allowed to watch for a few minutes because they were curious and now my 2, 4 & 8 year old do their own versions from time to time.
Mama’s I am sharing this with you because family balance is extremely important. It is our very first ministry. There may be things that your spouse needs from you, other than sex, to make him happy or keep him at peace. For my husband it is walking into a clean nice smelling space and making our bedroom a love nest. This does not mean our house has to be completely spic and span it just needs to be organized. Since I have made it my business to do these 3 things for my husband his overall attitude has been different when he arrives home (believe it or not my attitude has been better to).
Now that I am homeschooling and we are in our home the majority of the time we can get really nit-picky quickly (try saying that 5 times). My kids are learning that in order to get what they need it is important to communicate, not just with me, their Mama but with everyone. If you want or need something ask for it. If you hurt someone’s feelings apologize. If it is your fault own it and do better. This has cut down on a lot of whining and complaining. I sat down with my 9, 8 & 4 year old to ask what they needed from us as parents. Mama’s I was surprised with their answers so I’ll share a few of them with you: bring back Taco Tuesday for dinner, have a one-on-one outing with a parent without other siblings and watch TV in Mama and Daddy’s bed in their PJ’s one night a week. There you have it, from the mouth of my babies.
Sometimes with all of the gadgets, TV, tablets, game consoles, etc. we can forget about the little things that keep us grounded and close as a family. We all want to know that we matter, that our voices are being heard and that we are loved. That’s what family is all about. So I urge you today to find out what your family is in need of and work together to help meet those needs I guarantee you, you won’t regret it. I believe in you, we can do this….YOU can do this!
Live your life with a purpose!